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I'm sick of my bf talking about politics

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ReyRey12 · 09/02/2026 19:49

This is a vent.

I am getting annoyed at my partner turning every conversation political. He watches too much news. Sky, BBC and GB News to get the full story from all perspectives. Reads Daily Mail, Telegraph and Guardian. Follows Tommy Robinson and Owen Jones.

We go for a lovely walk on the beach with windmills in the background. It becomes about how the UK pays the most for energy, net zero 2030 is unrealistic, and Germany is bringing back nuclear power.

I mention that I am rewatching The Crown. That turns into Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor, Epstein, Mandelson and the Labour Party.

He is going to a meeting in a town I have never visited. I say I could come with him and just walk around town. That becomes about high streets being ruined, industry taken away, and towns becoming derelict.

I mention my friend coming to the UK on Erasmus. Then it is about how ridiculous it was to rejoin Erasmus because it costs so much, British student uptake on Turing was much higher, and the money should be used for that instead.

We work in local government and the NHS, so you can only imagine how much material there is.

I am getting tired of it. I do watch the news, but I do not know the details of climate plans well enough to debate them. And when I do have an opinion, putting it into the middle of a rant is pointless. Most importantly, sometimes I am just sharing my day without thinking that the PM’s incompetence is the reason my meeting went badly.

He does sometimes notice that I have not said anything. Sometimes I get annoyed and say something completely ridiculous like yes, let’s put them all in a queue and shoot them, and while we are at it let’s murder all the women and make the children watch. That usually stops it for about a minute.

And the thing is that he isn't the only one. I've noticed this from other people in social gatherings. Everything turns into politics. Sometimes on a saturday night I just want to talk about our lives and light things.

End of rant.

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LoyalMember · 10/02/2026 23:24

I'm sorry for this, I truly am, but he sounds like an insufferable, pompous, boring arsehole.
Again, sorry...

MilanoCortina2026 · 11/02/2026 00:44

Jc2001 · 09/02/2026 20:34

GB News & The Daily Mail?

LTB

And Tommy Robinson? Immediate dumping offence. Does he make racist comments?

TraitorsLantern · 11/02/2026 01:23

That does sound tiresome, I think you need to revisit the topic with him. Also he’s not just discussing politics, he’s ranting about it. To me that’s more tiresome. Maybe you could suggest he watches less of it. It’s admirable to get different perspectives so you’re not in an echo chamber but he possibly doesn’t need to do it day in day out.

suburberphobe · 11/02/2026 01:39

life is too short to be fucking miserable about the state of the world!

Yes, I agree.

It's dire right now but it's always been dire (parents went through WW2).

Life is so pleasant too without some man hogging the conversation.

Emori · 11/02/2026 01:54

Sounds like you don't like him much and that you have different values. Up to you I guess, if you want to stay in a relationship with someone you don't like whose values don't match yours. I personally wouldn't. What are you getting out of this? You talk about him in a scathing condescending way. Is that a dynamic that works for you? If so, crack on. If not, leave.

Hyrtlemyrtle · 11/02/2026 02:26

I agree with @Emori. You don’t sound as if you like him or his views so why be with him? I can imagine the response if a woman complained that her partner shut her down each time she tried to talk about things that were important to her. You admit to liking football chat. There are lots of men who only want to talk sport. Find someone more compatible that you enjoy having a conversation with.
I love talking to my husband. He is well read and informed about the news and I always feel I learn something when we chat. Find someone whose views are more aligned with you. You do sound very dismissive of him. Look for someone who you enjoy talking to and discussing issues. You will both be happier.

GarlicBound · 11/02/2026 03:13

I am a crashing bore who truly loves a conversation to go wider, thinking about socio-political, economic and even psychological contexts. And I would hate spending time with your boyfriend.
Reasons:

  1. His input is narrow, so his output will be biased & limited.
  2. He's talking at you.
Going towards any political extreme never gets better, ime. If I had to bet on it. I'd be backing eulogies to Robinson & Farage before the summer. The veneer coming off the racism, then a tragic slide into Andrew Tate territory. Hope not, though, for your sake. Maybe you can rescue him before it's too late and you have to stab him.
ChestnutSquash · 11/02/2026 03:18

You are not compatible. You are not married so end the relationship.

canuckup · 11/02/2026 03:24

Same here
Yanbu

YRGAM · 11/02/2026 06:39

If the rest of the relationship is worth keeping (it sounds like it is from your posts) you need to tell him directly to lay off the political talk when he's with you. Hints aren't going to cut it - if he is unable to take your body language cues that you're not interesting in his ranting, he won't take your verbal ones either. 'Please can we not talk about politics for a while, it makes me feel talked at and that I could be anybody'

2old4thispoo · 11/02/2026 07:02

What's good in the relationship?

What are the positives?

MilanoCortina2026 · 11/02/2026 07:07

People seem to be missing the point when saying things like tell him to simmer it down when with you (leaving him free to rattle on to others, including like-minded people) and consider the rest of the relationship good.

He consumes right wing media and follows Tommy Robinson. Imagine someone writing here that they'd just met someone who did all this. They'd be told not to touch him with a ten foot barge pole.

arethereanyleftatall · 11/02/2026 08:07

MilanoCortina2026 · 11/02/2026 07:07

People seem to be missing the point when saying things like tell him to simmer it down when with you (leaving him free to rattle on to others, including like-minded people) and consider the rest of the relationship good.

He consumes right wing media and follows Tommy Robinson. Imagine someone writing here that they'd just met someone who did all this. They'd be told not to touch him with a ten foot barge pole.

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No. The point the op was making about Tommy Robinson was that he follows both left and right extremes, as well as middle ground, to try and get a balanced view.

lots of people advising that he stops talking about it around op. This is madness to me. It’s his passion. They’re just not compatible.
if one changes oneself to be in a relationship, then that relationship isn’t gonna last.

ReyRey12 · 11/02/2026 12:36

Interesting how people latch onto the GB News and Tommy Robinson. When I mentioned also sources that are considered left wing and neutral. Well, I guess BBC neutrality is up for debate. And first question is if he is racist.

Yes, i made a lighthearted comment about football. It does not mean I want to sit around the dinner table and only talk football.

Also, I'm not exactly sure how I am talking about him in scathing condescending way. Or how I clearly diskike him or. I don't dislike him. He does have positives. I have tons of negatives (in case it is not obvious) and even some positives.It might be that we are not compatible but this is not the thing that breaks the camels back and i am not leaving him over something that has been a 'problem' for a short while in the relationhsip. I don't need him to stop talking around me. I just need him to read the room.

I feel like is is comparable when you've had a shit day and you need someone to say "that sucks" instead of giving opinions on what they would have done and tryjng to fix it. Sometimes you need aomeone to tell you what you should have done differently.

I do enjoy talking with him. He is my favourite person to do stuff with. I don't think I've mentioned anything about his or mine views or if they align.

I appreciate the comments though and we will talk about it when the situation presents itself.

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