I know the title sounds a bit needy….
I have a good friend who I love spending time with and over the years we’ve done loads together - nights out, outdoor adventures, foreign trips but as the years go on feel like she isn’t making the effort particularly since I’ve had kids (she is child-free by choice).
I am forever suggesting ‘child-free’ outings - drinks/walks etc and make it clear that I prioritise plans with her over other things - sometimes they happen sometimes they don’t.
What I find annoying is that I am clearly not such a priority for her. She’ll tell me she’s stressed and busy so I’ll leave her alone but will then see photos on social media of her happily socialising with other people - some of these people she complains to me that they are flaky!!!
How do I deal with this - am I too needy and making too much of an effort? Does she feel that she doesn’t need to make and effort as I am ‘always there’.
Over the last few months I have backed off a bit - I think she notices because every so often I’ll get a flurry of messages with promises of a meet up but we quickly rever to the old same old.
Really don’t want to give up on this friend and she’s great company but unsure how to manage really.