Is anyone else with a man who doesn’t attach emotional meaning to sex

[Emmie243]

After 5 years together and one DC, I’ve just come to massive realisation that DP experiences sex primarily as a physical act rather than an emotional one. We had an argument the other day and I said something along the lines of “Well, you seemed fine to sleep with me last night” and his response was along lines of “ It’s just sex, means nothing” Just sex. We have the most passionate sex, he holds me after. I just don’t know how I feel about him saying this. Now it feels impersonal , like I could’ve been anyone.

Really?! I’ve always found the opposite! I can always disassociate for early days or a one night thing. Not in a marriage though, I don’t think it’s a gender/sex thing, just someone who isn’t that into you, which is sad if you’re married.

I think the issue with this is that for a lot of men sex is the only time they show their partners a semblance of affection. It's quite sad then that they see it a just a physical act and what appears to be affection is just a means to an end.

It also contradict the other view held by many men that sex is only way they feel intimacy and connection.

"well you were fine to sleep with me last night" sounds like a defensive response back to something (nasty? insensitive?) he's said to you. Can you elaborate on the argument you were having when this came up?