Should it be this hard?

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Met my husband online in 2012. Married 2017 second for both of us. I was so happy to have finally found my person. Fast forward to now everything is so difficult. He is always working, for money that never comes into the house, when he is not working he travels alone to his home town, His family never invite me I think because they blame me for taking him away from them, he is always grumpy and moans constantly about my son still living at home. My son is 23 and has a disability. He is 62 I am 54. I feel so sad and so so lonely. My first marriage was abusive this is not like that. Even so should it be this hard?

No it shouldn't be this hard. What joy is he bringing to your life? I wouldn't put up with his moaning about your son, I'd be telling him if he doesn't like it he knows where the door is!

There's no shame in realising that you have made a mistake marrying this man and taking steps to separate and divorce. It sounds like he is selfish and just making you miserable.

why does the money not come into the house?

No, leaving you to go and see his family, not including you, and neither does his family, to me that is active exclusion on his behalf and he does nothing to guard your marriage, in fact it sounds like he has checked out.

Your son is your family, and you decided along with your son when its time to move out. If I were you I would re evaluate this marriage.

I say this over and over, but if you were starting out now, would this be what you were looking for? Someone grumpy and moany who doesn’t bring money in? Would that be your dream relationship?

if not, don’t settle for it. You deserve better.

You say he is always working, no money comes into your house, he spends all his free time with his family who never invite you - I’ll be honest it sounds like he’s got another woman and living a double life