My DH is close to his parents and sees them every week (stays over) when working in London. My 80 year old Dad (mum passed away 24 years ago) lives in Ireland.
We have been on many holidays with ILs over the years.
I hope to visit my dad for a week this summer. Along with our three children and oldest’s partner (teens to mid 20s in age)
My husband wants to invite his parents along.
I realised a year or two ago that (due to my decision as an 18 year old to move to Uni in UK and subsequent life choices) I possibly wouldn’t see my dad more than a handful of times (I hope he’s actually immortal but not hedging my bets)
My dilemma is that DH wants to bring his dad and mum with us because he thinks his dad only has a few years left.
(ILs are extremely high maintenance on holiday and actually drive my DH bonkers. DH has recently spent three weeks abroad with his dad and we all spend a week with them in late 2025)
What do I do? Let it happen and have a not relaxing holiday trying to keep them entertained while curtailing time with my own dad and siblings or put my foot gently down and point out that I too would like to have some memories with my own biological family.
Perhaps a compromise of them joining us for a few days but even that seems unnecessary.
What would you do?