I’m worth nothing to him anymore, maybe I’m better off not being here

[Beckyboo34178]

Found out last night, the man I loved for four years has been going to his exes house and cheated on me. I saw the messages on his phone from her to him, he was reluctant to show me but he did and then blamed me for making him do that. He never wanted anything to do with her when we were together now he’s goes there to fix her house up .
i was poorly the other day, I reached out but he didn’t come because he was with her. I am in so much pain from this and feel heartbroken. Don’t want to be here anymore I’m worthless ,

Why are you worthless? His the worthless cheat

So sorry you are feeling like this. You are not worthless. He is the one in the wrong.

Can you talk to someone IRL as well as us on here? The Samaritans are really good if you are feeling low.

OP, I'm so sorry this has happened to you, he sounds absolutely awful and you deserve better. (I can say that without even knowing you, because no woman deserves to be treated this way.) Please do NOT let this sorry excuse for a human being make you feel worthless or cause you to do any harm to yourself, no man is worth it. I promise you you are not worthless - that is the damage he's done to your self-esteem talking. He sounds like an all-round uncaring/selfish a'hole as well as a cheat. You'll get through this, and decent men are out there. You deserve to find happiness, please hang in there. 💐

Hello OP, we're sorry that you're feeling so low.

We just wanted to signpost you to a few places where you can get some support.

Do take a look at our Mental Health resources.

You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected]. Their freephone number is 116 123 and you can call them any time of the day or night.

Some further support links:
NHS: Where to get urgent help for mental health
NHS: Looking after your mental health

Very best wishes from MNHQ

Honey, you're not the worthless one, he is. He's a worthless cheat and you deserve better. I bet you're lovely. Please do reach out to family and friends for support. You can call the Samaritans if you're feeling low and need someone to talk to. Sending hugs 💐

Honestly OP as soon as a man turns round and blames YOU for their bad behaviour then it shines a light on what type of person they are.
You are worth so, so much more than this this cheating low life.

Please please please don’t blame yourself. You are not worthless. You just had the misfortune of believing a lying cheating piece of shit who isn’t fit to lick your boots.

Him and his ex are a pair of skanks who deserve each other - hold your head high that you are better than they will ever be.

If a man cheated on any other woman would that mean she is worthless?
Of course not.

Sometimes we love the wrong people. Or, sometimes they are only right for a short while.
This guy has outlived that time period.

Frankly he sounds like a right twat anyway. Blaming you for his cheating is something immoral chumps with no capacity for introspection do. Or, abusive men. And I wonder if its the later as having a relationship with men like that can lead us to be very extremist in the language we use towards ourself.

Practice using kind language towards yourself. And dump the chump, his time in your life needs to be over.

I find your post very worrying. @Beckyboo34178
Are you reading the messages here.
Your feeling are valid as you feel rejected and humiliated. It’s not a reflect of who you are.
Do you have any support in real life, if think you need care and to be around people that love you right now x

No I have no family just friends, I’m getting a bit better each day but he was all I had. X

@Beckyboo34178 bless you, I hope your friends can offer you some support. Don’t doubt yourself, you are experiencing a massive betrayal and it hurts so much.

Practically, eat and drink little and often. The way he’s treated you has nothing to do with your self worth though it feels that way right now.

Why don’t you tell posters what you need from this thread, a listening ear, advice, somewhere to help navigate your feelings? Sending you a virtual hand hold x