Online Dating At My Age?

[Lonely1972]

Hello. Are there any online dating apps you could recommend for someone like me (single for too many years, born in 1972, Indian). I'd appreciate your advice as I don't know where to begin! xx

My late Indian mother-in-law tried dating after divorce. Initially she went on lots of dates with Indian men of similar background.

Eventually, her children talked her into trying to date a white man. The first guy she met she moved in with not long after. They stayed together for 17 years until she passed away.

@InNeedofAdvice12345 that's a lovely thing to hear! I'm not particularly religious, so I don't mind what ethnicity a potential partner holds. I would prefer someone who speaks my language, but I'm fluent in English, so that's a preference, not a strict rule. Blessings to your mum in law, I'm lad to hear she was happy in her later years.

ps. @InNeedofAdvice12345 How did they meet? I don't seem to meet anyone, that's why I was asking about online dating?

I am also in 1972, and have successfully used both Hinge and Bumble.

Match worked well for me. I was on it only for a few weeks, but had two lovely dates, the first I am still in touch with (nice bloke but there was no chemistry) and second, I am still with nearly five years in. I would suggest you go in to it open to meeting people from different backgrounds - I am happier than I have ever been and my partner is of a different race/background/upbringing.

I don't think the choice of the app matters. If there was an app where only good men were, we'd all be on there. Just pick one or two and give it a whirl.
I highly encourage you to make a mental (if not a physical) list of exactly what you are looking for to save yourself time matching with people that don't align with you.

I was born 1963. I met my now husband in 2018 on tinder. I also used "match" but they'd weren't a lot in my area and "plenty of fish" which I didn't find very good.

That was such a long time ago, about 30 years ago. They met via an ad in a newspaper.

For some reason, she had no luck with men of her ethnic background. Then this white guy came along.

Initially, the children were in shock over his leather trousers. However, things progressed very quickly and my late mother-in-law was very happy with him and the guy became part of the family.

I was born in 1969. Had my best matches when I was Internet dating last year on Tinder and Hinge.

Give them a try, but treat it very lightly as a way to meet new people. Do not take any of it seriously or personally.

There are decent people on there but they are like a needle in a an haystack really but if you're happy to sift through then it's quite a fun way to spend the evenings in the winter.

I went on a lot of First Dates and eventually met a really nice guy my own age who I have been with for over a year now

Thank you all for kind replies. xx

I will surely keep this string updated if I can find an online website for me. Thank you all for the private messages I really am thankful. xxx

You're younger than me x

Why are we using birth years instead of just ages? Somewhat peculiar.

I'm north of 53 but south of 80 and I'm on ourtime. It works for me.

LOL. Did I confuse you?

That's lovely to know!

I'm much older than you and l used the free version of Bumble, but tbh all sites are much the same. Just pick one ( l have also heard Hinge mentioned a lot) and give it a try.
Also read up on the dating 'rules' on the Dating thread on here, they make sense! Quick bit of advice, don't text or chat for too long, meet asap just for a quick coffee to see if there's any kind of connection/ attraction as online can be very different to real life. Good luck!

@Seaoftroubles That seems like good advice - thank you! I'll think it over the weekend and if I do it i'll let you all know here. x