Help understanding

[Mia34]

I have been with my partner nearly 2 years.
we are both early forties.
He is quite solitary and needs his own space which I have always been on with.
Hiwever this last week he’s been going through a very difficult time and prefers to be alone and is not very communicative via the phone.
i know it’s his way of dealing with it but it hurts a lot.

i saw him the day before yesterday and things were fine between us it’s just the way he handles difficult moments that’s starting to make me sad and anxious.
how can I best deal with it ?

Well it’s just you are clearly not compatible emotionally so I would have to walk away. I’m sure other people will come up with some strategies to cope with this but ultimately in your 40s you are both your own people and unlikely to change

there’s a group on Meetup called support for spouses of partners who are autistic and a lot of what you describe and they describe sounds very similar

This. It’s not working for you.