Trapped and I want to leave

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I'm married to someone who isn't who I thought they were. I want to leave. I have a DC4. I haven't worked in a workplace since 2018. I don't really have much of a pension. I have a little bit of savings but it won't go far.

What would the steps be to getting set up to leave? Right from the beginning? I was never very good at applications and interviews, and looking at job adverts is terrifying. But I really want to go and I want to have things sorted before I tell him. Any advice very welcomed.

I'm sure someone will be along with better advice than me.
This will be along the lines of getting your ducks in a row. Basically work out how much money you're going to need for bills, groceries childcare, work travel costs,etc. You might be able to account for maintenance for your dc but I read so many cases on here where that hasn't always been that forthcoming. You also need to factor in drop off and pick times from school once your dc starts plus what you'll do during the school holidays.
Biggest to consider is where you'll live and how to pay for that. Is there anyone in rl you trust that you can discuss all this with? It'll help you get your head around it all. Don't rush into anything. You need to plan so you and your dc are ok and you don't feel compelled to stay or return once you've left.