Elderly friend with the beginnings of Dementia, becoming 'touchy-feely'

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I have a lovely male friend who I've cared for for many years. He is 89 and has onset dementia. He's recently moved into a nursing home and when I visit him, he's started telling me how much he fancies me, how he wants to kiss me and endlessly tells me how beautiful I am. I'm in my 50's and am simply just a friend!

He has no family and no one else who visits him, but it's getting a tad weird and uncomfortable. Does anyone have any experience of this situation with dementia or could give me some advice?

Worth searching online, I would expect dementia charities might have advice on dealing with this behaviour. I can imagine it's something paid female carers have to deal with sometimes.

Unfortunately, this is quite common with some types of dementia, if it effects the areas of the brain responsible for impulse control and inhibition. Would it be possible to speak to the staff at the nursing home, they may have some strategies to help deal with the behaviour. I would probably try distraction when it comes to his saying inappropriate things and firmly move his hands away and say 'no, don't touch me there please, I don't like it' if he's trying to touch you. It may be that you feel that you want to visit less frequently and keep visits short, which is understandable.

Ask the staff if he can be moved to the communal areas before you arrive and see if makes any difference if other people are around. Perhaps try sitting on the other side of a table and do an activity he likes such as a game or jigsaw.