Hi. Sorry for the long one but just need a vent and some advice please.
me and my partner have been together around £ years. Great at the start and then a few years down the line and things have gone south a bit.
we have 2 children and have had multiple miscarriages. One of them being half way through the pregnancy. Our youngest was born premature by emergency section after me being in hospital for weeks and had ongoing health issues after so a lot of stress and trauma for both of us.
He doesn’t know how to deal with situations like that and goes into fight or flight which is understandable but at the time he wasn’t there for me much ( I didn’t think so anyway )
we argue all the time over stupid things. He works full time and me part time. By the time he comes home the kids are in bed and everything has been sorted out like dinner cleaning etc. We have had counselling previously and it hasn’t solved much really. We argue over things in the house which sound stupid when said out loud but honestly drive me mad. I just find some things lazy. ( leaving clothes lying around and drinks everywhere ) I don’t know if it’s where I am the one to clean most of the time it just annoys me? Maybe I’m being stupid who knows.
Another big argument is sex. I just dont want to do it. We always seem to be in a negative space and I just don’t have the urge to do it? He seems to try and schedule it in and I’m more of just in the moment type person. He will text me when I’m in the shop saying can we have it when you’re back and I don’t know why it puts me off. Saying this out loud I just sound ridiculous but I don’t know why I feel like it.
any one been in something similar?