Possible late blooming lesbian

[Jadethesheep]

Hi

Just thought I'd post as I've spoken to a close friend too. So I'm 24, with a 5 year old, been single for a couple of years now and not really looked on apps or anything. Basically life takes over doesn't it , never dated women, or done anything at all like that. Anyway since just before Christmas, I've gotten to know a woman, she has a 6 year old and is 45 so older than me, we began talking on the school run. Swapped numbers and Instagram etc, she's really attractive and had a female partner in the past

Ive begun hanging out wirh her friends, they're all over 40, we went for drinks last week and one of her friends mentioned that this woman has a huge crush on me but was afraid to do anything about. And im kind of debating maybe I should make the first move, my best friend is keen on me making it more obvious I like her as well

Well I wouldn’t advise embarking on a possible relationship just to keep your friend entertained …

But anyway, late blooming would be 83, not 24. At 24 you’re barely anything. I don’t think it needs overthinking.

Go for it! Life is short and if you think there's something there then it's worth it. Just mention to her you would like to take it slow and see how it goes?

Are you def a lesbian or curious/like the attention? Just think if you’re not sure this could end badly

That’s not in the least bit late blooming. I know quite a few women with children who’ve realised much later in life that they’re bi or lesbian. You’re still very young with plenty of time to work out what you want your life to look like.
If this is something you want to do then go for it. You won’t know if it could work if you never try.
If you’re not sure or think it could damage a good friendship then don’t.

Appreciate the level headed kind words , you make some good points 😊

Thats the thing im not sure, partly why I thought id write something. Im definitely not into men, I guess just trying to make sense , but the crush is real, it does feel mutual as well

What drives you to write this post? Sudden sexual fantasies what rubbing it with her might look like or indeed a whole new level of wanting to share a life as a family with a woman? Because I am totally heterosexual but if I imagine myself doing it with a woman, I know it will be physically pleasant, this is just bodily function. But definitely the idea of living with a woman and doing this all the time for rubbing's sake brings me horrible yuck

"rubbing's sake"?! What the actual fuck is this poster ^^ oh my word.

It’s one thing to explore your sexuality but that is a very big age gap op. I think that’s more reason to be wary, as well as her being a school run mum and how will you feel if you have a short lived fling then have to face her every day for another 5 or 6 years. But crack on with exploring your sexuality.

I was about that age when I started to admit to myself I was Bi. Took me years longer to date a woman. I suggest you talk to her, tell her you fancy her and want to try dating but not sure where you stand with your sexuality. She’d appreciate the honesty and then you can enter into it without second guessing yourself or feeling guilty.

the finding out is fun. It will either feel right or not right and then you will know x

As others have said, you are far from “late blooming”, l was well into my 30s before l discovered my bi side. But looking back, the signs were there, l just didn’t recognise them myself.

Personally, l wouldn’t focus too much on any sexuality label at this stage (l prefer to simply regard myself as “sexual”; no prefix. Think for today rather than way ahead in the furure.

Maybe next time you are together, when parting ask for a hug and say something along the lines of “may l kiss you on the cheek” and see what happens on future meets.

Good luck. x 🌈