Single for too long

[Thegrassroots26]

Do you reckon there’s a point at which you’ve been single too long? I’m nearing my 7th year post separation/divorce. Given up on dating apps. Just doesn’t feel likely I’m going to get my happy ever after. Men seem so broken, yet happy to waste your time but not actually know how to show up for a functional committed partnership. It just feels utterly hopeless. Is it best to resign to the inevitable and accept it’s not going to happen.

I've been single 16 years, couldn't be with anyone now 😆 I love the freedom too much.

Unfortunately sometimes in life men will never commit to a relationship because they somehow feel the need to play the field. Be single for a little longer because you'll never know when you stop looking and stop going on dating apps which are waste of time by the way. Somebody will pop up when you least expect it that's what I am going to start doing, I had a relationship with my now EX partner for two years but it was toxic as hell, I will be 40 years old in two months and at the moment I love single life nobody to answer to I can't get accused of shit that he was doing himself whilst he was in the relationship with me Get yourself back out there communicate with people go for drinks go for walks you'll never know you could bump into your knight in shining armor, without even thinking it has known to happen.

10 years single here, happier than ever.

Nearly 10yrs here, too. I love having my own life, peace and lack of drama.

Why does Happy Ever After need to involve a bloke?

I have been married twice. I have been single now for fifteen years and definitely have my happy ever after. My life is pretty blissful to be honest.

I've been single for 12 years, and planning to be forevermore!

Yes possibly. But not at 7 years. & it really depends if the right person comes along who is compatible enough. A relatives of mine has been single 20 years and someone lovely recently came along but she just couldn’t adapt her life to Include him in the way he wanted. She was so content with how she was that adding a man that wanted quite a lot of her time, energy and physical space was too much. She decided he is wonderful but she is wonderful and happier how she is without any compromises added.

I think if you’re open to possibilities and the potential for change, actively looking, keep yourself healthy and attractive, live a full life and have social things going on then there is every reason to think you will meet someone great at some point. It’s just waiting for the right person at the right time.

It's best to accept your life regardless of whether or not it happens. I've only been single for 8 months but I've also been single throughout my 20s and 30s. Then two long term relationships in quick succession and now single at 42. I can tell you that the difference is immense! In my 20s and 30s I was constantly looking for a guy. Always catastrophising, always feeling the "lack". Now? Bloody love my life! Sex is everywhere, I have my own house, my own money, my own time, my own friends, diverse interests, a job I love, beautiful supportive family. I look great, feel great. I'm not closed off to a relationship but not focusing on it either. And it's such a different experience!
So yes. You must accept that your life is for you and make it exactly what you want it to be. Maybe "the one" will appear, maybe not.

Single Pringle for 4 years. I've tried the dating apps but I just can't be bothered now

Thanks to those who’ve commented. I guess I’m old fashioned at heart, and maybe times have changed such a lot, that men who want a monogamous long term commitment are even more difficult to find.
I won’t give up entirely, but I find it lonely and hard to see the joy in life unpartnered for so long. My children are older now, teens and so I feel that loneliness a lot more keenly I guess. Perhaps some of us are better suited to being on our own and filling our lives with family, friends and hobbies instead. I don’t seem good at it.