Intimacy

[Iveda]

My husband of 21 years refuses to be intimate with me because I dislike his mother!! Have tried to tell him politely, I want intimacy with him and miss it and I also love him and have never cheated on him. What should I do?

Thats a very weird excuse.
What do you want to happen?

It's hard for him to adore a mean girl.
I think it was mean to tell him that you dislike his mother.

You put him in a very hard position.
Who will he choose?

Just have a normal relationship, while his mother is happy living her life.

No need to choose or asking him to choose. I am entitled to express and feel hurt when treated a certain way, but why should he stop being loving to me. His mother is just living her life happily.

That is the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard in my life... Not liking his mother? Ok, he is allowed not to be over the moon with it, and maybe try to resolve the issue even, but christ, not being intimate over this? Surely sex life and anyone's own mother should never even exist in the same context, ever. To quote the young ones: ew.
Does he talk to you at least, or acting like a child because of how he feels about mummy?

Ha, he won’t have sex with you because you don’t get on with his mother?! That’s nutty. There must be some underlying reason. If it’s such a huge thing for him why doesn’t he leave? Are you happy to carry on like this or do you think you may consider leaving?

How long is this going on ???

Why do you dislike his mother and is there anything that can be done to remedy this?

If he's thinking about his mother when you're having sex. You gave bigger problems than no sex.