Textationship

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Hi all

I have been in what could be described as a 'textationship' for months.

I feel really invested & bonded with this person & would love to have a proper relationship. We've both indicated that we like each other, but this person is extremely busy and can never make time to see me. There is some distance involved, but not a crazy amount of miles.

Oh & they're not a catfish as we have met.

I want to ask where we stand but I'm worried about seeming pushy when they have a lot on their plate.

I've got the opportunity to get to know other people, but feel loyalty to this person & talking to anyone else feels like cheating. But I don't want to be on my own for years to come.

Does anyone have any advise or been in a similar situation.

Thanks x

Months? Kindly if they wanted more they’d have done something about it. Move on.

I wouldn't settle for a "textationship". Only a real life relationship would do me.

I’m really sorry OP but literally nobody is too busy to see you at all if they want to. Even an hour for a coffee, lunch on a weekend, a drink in a local pub…

That's not a textationship. That's a pen pal.

Hi.

Ask yourself what you want. Is it 'a proper relationship?' If so, why are you wasting your time?

It’s not a ‘ship’ at all. You’re pen pals. That’s all.

Get to know those other opportunities.

there is no such thing as a textationship
why didn’t you meet up again?
You’re investing a lot in this for no reason
have you had relationships before? Are you quite young?

Thanks for the replies.

You're saying what I'm already thinking, sadly noone is that busy & would make the effort of they wanted to.

No not young at all, I'm getting on in fact and separated from a 20 year + marriage! x

The only people who want to text and not meet are either not interested and are texting to keep options open/because they’re bored, or they’re married. If someone is keen nothing will stop them meeting.

If they wanted to see you, they would.

You can get that kind of textual emotional support from ChatGPT

Find a person who actually wants to meet up!

I'm actually cringing at my own self, have I really been deluding myself so much.

I just kept hoping ..

Don't cringe OP! You were opening yourself up to a new relationship. But this is not it.

They’re not interested in a relationship but probably thriving on the attention,

If they wanted to they would.

Let it go it’s not worth the headspace

Text relationships are nothing serious. Its like a friendzone. You can look around if all your doing is texting guys. Choose wisely. Honestly its best to work with what you have because it has good foundation. Its upto you though.

You don't need to ask where you stand. It's pretty clear that you don't stand anywhere at all. I have a very busy life and "a lot on my plate" but I can shift things around to see the person I want to see.