Mom of toddler, baby and 7 years old. Is my husband not straight

[Momofmanykids]

I cannot even write it but my husband proper into me till now when he sees me he grabs me and always asking for sex. But after I had a baby , I am so tired for sex and he get upset. Lately he disappears till 6am and I call him non stop. After tracking him down I found out he goes to his divorced old male colleague (50yrs old). He lies about it. He said he is working late and I called work to find out he never was at work. Why did he need to lie ?
I call him nonstop and he never replies the phone. When he comes home he claim he fell asleep at his colleague house. hence why he came 6am and he comes home so hungry like he never eaten. I threatened him I’ll leave if he kept this up but today he done it again. If there is no girls or drugs there what is he doing with him ? Like what is my 30 years old husband doing with a 50 years old bloke ?
I asked him if the bloke is obsessed with y he just laughed about it. Am I being crazy
I kicked him out and he is refusing to leave and asked me till end of the day to change my mind because usually sex or hug will work on me but I feel deep down something is wrong ? He is sleeping in the cold hallway to show how sorry he is but I cannot shake deep down something is wrong. Someone talk to me and make me reason with my throughts

OP, is he a gamer? Or is he watching sports with this man? Or watching porn? Or drinking or doing drugs? I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion that he’s having a gay affair, but I would want to know why he was lying about seeing this man.

It could be he goes to this older guys house as a bolt hole or somewhere to escape so he can avoid helping with the kids or the new baby. Maybe they are gaming or doing drugs? To assume he's not straight is a bit of a stretch, has he given you any reason to suspect him of being gay before? From your post it sounds like he was pretty keen on sex with you before the new baby came along so it seems unlikely to be that.

Till now he is still requesting sex but I feel like three kids it’s too much for him. The third kid was a mistake and happened even with contraception. We both youngish even tho he hit 30.
I Haven’t slept all night calling him. He never gave me a reason before to suspect but how comes he come home hungry, and tired and he lies about his location.
I thought blokes when they meet all they do is eat non stop. He comes home starving and he looked me in my eyes and said he worked till 6am. Luckily I called his work because I had a feeling he is going to lie and this man never lied before and we have been together 10 years !
he is very very handsome. I see man looking at him sometimes and I remember a story from his teen how this men was obsessed with him and police had to be involved. I don’t know if I am overthinking or over reaching but I still don’t get why he lie about this men 💔

I am trying to kick him out but he doesn’t want to leave ! I am going to have to escalate this because he done this for months and I always believed he was at work

Are both your names on the rental agreement or just yours? You absolutely cannot just kick him out if it is a joint tenancy. You can live separately within the house and not cook for him. You need to check your rental agreement.

It is entirely possible to be married to a woman and have children and be gay, but its not necessarily what is happening with your husband. To me it sounds more like he's just escaping family life, which still isn't ok.

Can you calm down a bit, get some sleep when the baby naps if that's possible and then talk to your husband calmly and sensibly. Don't get into screaming arguments and don't make snap decisions when your are sleep deprived and stressed