If changes were to happen?

[NeatSeal]

You let your partner of 15 years know that you wish he was romantic type of guy.

He starts doing romantic stuff, are you happy that he’s now being romantic or would it be like an insult that he’s not bothered the last 15 years and it now just seems what he is doing is not genuine?

I’d say he can’t win.

I would think he's damned if he does and he's damned if he doesn't.

I would be bothered because you settled for me being who I was for 15 years and now you want someone who I am not.

Yes we compromise but these things should be natural and we should settle for what we actually like

If he's otherwise a decent man, I'd appreciate he was making an effort to do what I'd like him to do. He probably is only doing them to make you happy, rather than because he wants to actually do the things, but he's choosing to do things to make you happy, even though they don't come naturally to him.

I guess it depends whether this was the first time you'd ever said this or it's a conversation you've had many times before?

Is this my partner?

Surely the fact that he's taken on board your criticism and wants to change to make you happy is in itself romantic?

So the effort is romantic, even if the intent behind it isn't particularly natural.

I’d want my boyfriend of 15 years to stay exactly as he was, why would I want him to ‘put on’ a personality that’s not him? I don’t get this ‘romance’ that so many women want anyway. Does he love you? Does he treat you well? Then being that it’s not a Disney film, I think we can leave the faux romance to 12 year olds circa Valentines Day.