Feel like I’m losing my mind

[Bitterfromthesweet]

I’m 43 and have noticed for the past few months (only took 43 years to notice!) that I am really low a few days before my period. To the point where I can’t think straight and don’t want to be around anyone or even alive sometimes. This obviously affects everyone in the house, I ask my husband for more affection but he stays away when I’m feeling low, which makes me feel worse. I try stay away from the kids (aged 13&14) as they then get ratty and I feel guilty.

I feel as though I have to pretend I’m always ok or everyone avoids me and makes me feel even worse.
If anyone is down at any point in the house, I am always there to make them feel better with lots of love. Why is that difficult to ask back?
I’m never horrible just very sad. All I want is a big cuddle and a kiss from my husband, and I just get avoided.

I assume lots of women have PMS. How do your husbands act when you’re at your low stage? What’s normal? I’m at the point where I think I would be happier alone, as my husband avoiding me just makes it worse.

I can’t comment on the relationship aspect per se as I’m single but I get very bad paranoia and intrusive thoughts before my period so I empathise.
luckily I am self employed so can be flexible with work so can manage it that way by avoiding people! I also take magnesium which helps and eat a very clean diet, I increase my carbs in the luteal phase which helps. Does your DH always ignore you when you ask for affection? As that’s more worrying generally. Men really don’t get how much it affects you. I feel like a completely different person.

Awwww thanks for replying. I’ll have to google the luteal phase 🫣. Husband does avoid me when I need affection it messes with my head. I had some cerelle mini pill from years ago that I found and have started taking. It’s only been a few hours but feel loads better (it’s probably the placebo effect ).