Relationship

[Mum311023]

So I am feeling a bit crap lately my ex-boyfriend had been screen shotting some of my social media content and pictures and trying to make a mockery of me I felt like this was bullying as he was allowing other people to say about things about me I have deactivated my Facebook for a while just to let things settle I've just come on here for a bit of a rant as I feel I don't have anybody to talk to.

I highly recommend blocking ex on all socials. How is he taking screenshots? Are you still connected with him?

But rant away. I had a dream about my ex last night. Infuriating that I can't just forget about the relationship and be done with it!

We had an argument at the weekend. He asked me a question he asked me for an honest answer and I gave him it. He didn't like my answer so he told me that he didn't want to be with me anymore. He wanted to talk to me more about what happened at the weekend because he wanted a clearer picture I told him everything that I said to him at the weekend and he still wasn't having any of it. we did have a few physical altercations last year which resulted me in having to get an Injunction on him I don't know what it is but he's got this very strange obsession with my last ex I think he sees him as a threat. The question he asked me was out of the arguments who was the worst him on my ex as a person I am truthful and honest I said to my boyfriend at the time you were the worst one for the arguments he didn't like it. He wanted me to say my other ex was the worst just so that it didn't make him look bad

I didn't block him on Facebook because I felt like I didn't need to I just ignored him so he's screenshot a cancellation that was made and put it on Facebook saying that I was a spiteful Bitch because I cancelled his dentist appointment the cheeky beggar asked me to then told everybody that I stole money from his bank when again the cheeky beggar gave me his bank card to buy myself some clothes that he insisted on I ended up having to give the money back to him because he called the police on me saying that I stole from him I nearly got prosecuted because he told them I stole his bank card this is how bad he was and now he's trying to make me out to be this villain and that he's the Victim

I have now deactivated my Facebook just until things die down

Controlling
injunction
bullying
get rid of that fucker straight away

Oh I have. And im glad.

One thing I would say - good riddance. Sounds way too immature to be in a relationship, controlling, with some issues just for good measure. So, well done for exiting. In terms of the screenshots he took - I understand it is uncomfortable, and annoying, but if they are just pictures you shared yourself with the online world, what's the worst that he can do? Show it to people? Don't worry too much about it...

Oh the pics were just screenshots of his cancelled dental appointment lol 😆 Hes his age for sure but his manhood. Its skipped him.

Speaking as a man - that manhood sounds very fragile and embarrassing, OP. So yup, you need no advice, did the right thing - onwards :)

He acts like he's a grown man but he talks like a teenager and he's very immature when we have arguments which I cannot stand I have told him time and time again to cut down on alcohol but he always passes the blame onto me I cannot be with somebody that doesn't see the wrong in their doings horrible nasty person when he's had a drink do not get me wrong there has been times where I think yes I found the one I really love him but I will not stand for him treating me like a doormat and a controlled pet.

Yup. You have no business wasting any more time with someone like that. I always say being alone is better than being with the wrong person.

Telling an alcoholic to cut down on their drinking is a waste of time. Better to be on your own than to be with someone like this, a person who will just drag you down with him.

Did you love him or were you really confusing that with codependency?

@AttilaTheMeerkat I love him still. But I can't be with him all the time hes this way. Hes not alcoholic. He works as well and hes constantly ringing me all the time asking me what am I doing. He rings alot. He does have insecurities from his past relationship. He cheated on her and accused me of having different men in my house all the time. He would check my pill to see if ive had sex with other men. At one point my bed wasn't made and he thought I had another man in the house. He was also the only one who smoked in the house and would flick his cig butt down the toilet then hours later blame me for cheating. He NEVER takes accountability for his shit. Its always my fault.

You’ve told him time and time again to cut down on alcohol hence me suggesting he is an alcoholic.

Regardless the man’s an abuser to. You should not have anything more to do with him because he will drag you down with him. Stop giving him any more power here by giving him any more thought. Block all his ways of being able to contact you.

@AttilaTheMeerkat that's Exactly what I've done I've blocked him from all my social media I have blocked him from messaging me and ringing me so there is no way he can get in touch with me he can put whatever he wants about me on his facebook he's nearly 42 years old and he still has to beg attention and screenshots stuff from my Facebook and putting them on his Facebook picking on me that just shows you what kind of person he truly is and I know it's going to be hard but it's something I have to do to protect my peace and my mental health too.