Is anyone else pregnant and feeling like this?

[yaryar]

I am wracked with fear about losing my husband. There's nothing wrong with him but I worry constantly about him getting into a car accident/becoming ill etc to the point of being quite obsessional about it. Almost every day I cry imagining how I would feel if he died.

It's not fear over money or being able to cope on my own with a child but it is pure fear about losing his love. I love him so much it's physically painful and ive even taken to following him about the house quite pathetically.

He doesnt know about these thoughts which run through my head.

Apart from this I am quite sane in other ways. Is this something to do with pregnancy and is it common?

I actually haven't since being pregnant, but for a couple of months before our wedding I became totally fixated about him dying, because his dad died young and suddenly - I think it might be a similar stress/big life change/realising it's all quite serious now kind of thing. I have read a lot of women saying that they have become very affectionate and touchy-feely towards their husbands when PG though (think I have a bit but we're pretty soppy anyway so it's hard to tell), so that could be a similar phenomenon to what you're experiencing maybe.

Is this your first baby?

I felt like that when I was pg. I used to worry when he went out at night to the shop or wherever that something bad would happen to him, I would worry he'd get stabbed or mugged, I actually got quite paranoid and used to imagine terrible things.

I don't worry like that now, so I guess it passes.

But then you give birth to a tiny baby and a whole new world of worry opens its doors!

I felt very emotionally attached to my xh1 when I was expecting my first baby. Used to be worried he would die, or get knocked over. Couldn't imagine my life without him. Couldn't stand the sight of him after I'd had the baby (pnd). I think it may firstly be a hormonal thing, and secondly be an effect of the overwhelming love you feel for your unborn baby spilling over for your dh too - like a 'family bonding' type of thing.

Have had moments like that - eg he was late hto bed one night recently (we were on holiday, he was hanging out in the hotel bar with friends, not like he was missing or anything!) and I had all these thoughts of his friends coming to tell me he had died somehow...how I would feel, I got myself in a right tizz, so had to get dressed and made a tit of myslf going down to get him and having a right go for being late. I couldn't explain what was really up...but I have been so paranoid about losing this baby I think it's a big jumble of fear of loss, hormones, dependence on him and just, yes, I love him so much and I'm a bit pregnancy bonkers! xxx

all quite normal and par for the course
it's a primal thing....you're worried about losing your mate, protector and provider
think back to the days before social security, like wi' brontosaurs and sabre toothed tigers and all that.........
doesn't mean you've developed psychic powers or are going mad, it's just that your "antennae" are twitching a bit more than normal