A few months ago I met up with a guy after months of talking.
things got a bit hot and heavy but I was adamant and set boundaries beforehand that I would not do anything unless there was protection.
at first he did try to use protection but kept losing his erection. So he took it off and was still on top of me and we were just kissing.
I would get antsy because he was close to my entrance and would shake my head and say mm uh (like no) and I did that quit a few times. To which he told to relax and chill he won’t do anything to trust him Then I one point I felt him enter and again I said we can’t do this.
so we laid there. I was already feeling down like he couldn’t keep his erection because he wasn’t attracted to me or something.
so the next day I sent him a text. Telling him I was very bothered. Like he didn’t hear me when I told him my boundaries. That I didn’t like being told to relax. I even went as far as to tell him he wasn’t the only one to blame. Because I could have been firm with my “no’s” maybe they came off playful?
earlier that day I had told him that I felt a type of way that he couldn’t keep an erection and he said a part of it was because I kept “pulling away” which is crazy to me. If I saw someone wasn’t comfortable doing something I wouldn’t have continued.
he did respond saying I was completely right and he did disregard my boundaries that he was ashamed and felt like it rape.
of course when I read that I assured him saying I wouldn’t go that far and that it was like I was pushing him off and saying no.
but I still feel a type of way. And I can only imagine what he might do or say to influence his future partners.