“I love you”

[Imowningup]

Approaching this point in a relationship and it’s made me interested to hear the experiences of others.

Who said if first?
was it spontaneous?
did you know for long before you said it?

He said it first, so no idea if it was ‘spontaneous’.

I think we’d been together for a couple of months but I can’t really remember. I don’t actually remember attributing any huge significance to it at the time as it was already pretty obvious that we loved each other.

I know we both knew very early on, even if we didn’t say it. We’d known each other as friends/colleagues for about two months before we got together so we’d already done the getting to know each other stage really.

She said it first, after about 6 months- then left me for someone else almost overnight about 18 months later.

I said it first very early on, as I’m an incredibly awkward person I also immediately took it back. Maybe six weeks in.

I said it to her first about 5 months into the relationship. Shed just told me she'd done me this complete pain in the arse of a favour completely unprompted, I hadn't asked her to do it at all. I just thought to myself "Fucking hell, she must really love me to have done that", so without even thinking about it, told her I loved her. She asked me what the fuck was wrong with me and nearly left the pub, freaked out (she had a few commitment issues at the time)

She didn't say it back to me until a good six months later. We'd just had a kid ( long story), and I woke her up at midnight on new years eve (shed asked me to). I gave her a kiss and she sleepily told me she loved me. I just said "I know". It didn't even really register with me that this was the first time she'd told me, and that it was a big thing for her to say it. Because I did already know, I'd known since that night in the pub 6 months ago.

I said first was 18 were now married and nearly 40 lol

Following. No idea what is normal (is there even a typical timescale)
I'm 4 months in and feel sure I love him. Too scared to say so. I think he feels the same.

In the past we said it at around 3 weeks (ended up.married for 12 years)
Also ended up saying it at 2 weeks and that one only lasted 3 months
When is the right timing?...Your guess is as good as mine

It was around 4/5 months in. I waa definetly feeling it and I felt he was too if that makes sense. The air just "changed"

We went for a weekend away and he wrote " I Love You " on the bed 😍

In my current relationship, my partner said it first after just over 3 weeks 😳 I knew I really liked him but wasn’t quite there, so I didn’t say it back (and told him that he couldn’t possibly love me yet 🙈). However, it didn’t take much longer and I said it to him about 10 days later ❤️.

He said it first, 3 months into the relationship. I don’t think it was spontaneous as he’d eluded to it a couple of times on the lead up. It was a really lovely (although slightly awkward 😅) moment. It was over four years ago but I remember it so clearly:

Him: I love your little face. And I love you
Me: silent for around 30 seconds it that a phrase? I love your little face and I love you?
Him: Er no, not that I know of
Me: Oh I love you too then!

I’d felt like that since virtually the moment I met him so no hesitation whatsoever. I hadn’t said those words in well over 10 years so it felt lovely to both say it and mean it!

He started bumbling away about how he felt we'd been together 2 months now, and he should tell me he has feelings and hes gone up a hill and hes at the top (lots of bumbling hugh grant-esque stammering, lol), and it took me a while to realise what he was going on about. I started laughing and said 'are you trying to tell me you love me'. And he said he might be, and I said ' well great because Ive been in love with you for a while, and I have been desperate to say it and....' he said 'well yes I do love you' and we just both started laughing. It was a super cute moment and I tease him about 'the hill' a lot. Apparently he had planned out this epic speech too. Nawwww.

I love these stories!