Stuck in the Middle

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Circumstances are: BF of six years. We each have two children. I also have DM living with me and my two children since DF died.
At first, BF only had his DCs one evening per week and every other weekend. We fit in seeing each other between times / each other’s commitments, etc. Over time, we gradually introduced the DCs having days out.
BF has had his DCs more and more, meaning BF brought them to my house more frequently. Often, his DD would have plans with her friends, etc during the day then comeback to my house for food, etc.
His DS is extremely demanding, always wanting my attention or bothering my mum. He is hyper - always wanting snacks, drinks, to do crafts, etc - whilst BF does DIY jobs around my house.
Whilst that is helpful, It is expensive feeding everyone all the time, and my DM is giving me huge grief about not wanting his DS here as he is so disruptive. What do I do?

Would you feel differently if your DM wasn’t there?

Assuming it's your house, DM either gets with the plan or leaves.

What percentage of the time that he has his children are they brought to yours?

Is your mother right that he is disruptive?

Do you want his ds there so much ?
Have you discussed it with him ?

Kind of sounds like you are free childcare, he should be looking after his own kids and spending time with them.

Your Mum should accept the set up though if she is living in your house, personally I would be hiding out in my room with the door locked!

Also interested as to what percentage of his time with the kids does he have them alone.

Seems like he sees you as a babysitting service and he definitely needs to pay for snack, food and drinks for his kids. Cheeky git.

How disruptive is his kid? It sounds like he needs some one on one time with dad for a while!

Yes he seems to be trading “man stuff” (the DIY) for “woman stuff” like your feeding and babysitting his kids. I would go back to just being friends with benefits.