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Post emotionally abusive breakup

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runningaway90 · 24/01/2026 19:21

I split from emotionally abusive ex almost 3 months ago. I initially felt like I was doing well, sorted a nice place to live and a new puppy and Christmas was approaching so was quite distracted and busy. Still keeping myself busy but feeling the lowest I have ever felt in my life. Genuinely feel worse than when I had someone who was criticising me daily and having to manage his behaviour. After some googling I guess it is the end of a trauma bond but I just feel awful. I keep having intrusive thoughts like I could just swerve my car off the motorway etc. Just need some advice or moral support that this is normal after leaving something like this.
I have counselling booked to start up next week thankfully but just looking for some advice from others who have been through it.

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Caughtletren · 24/01/2026 19:23

What’s your life like? Work? Family? Friends? Social life?

runningaway90 · 24/01/2026 19:24

Caughtletren · 24/01/2026 19:23

What’s your life like? Work? Family? Friends? Social life?

Good, I have a really good job somehow and supportive family who I am seeing a lot. Good friends too and I could be out all weekend but I'm retreating into myself and cancelling plans at the moment as just finding it very hard to pretend I'm ok

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Caughtletren · 24/01/2026 19:30

runningaway90 · 24/01/2026 19:24

Good, I have a really good job somehow and supportive family who I am seeing a lot. Good friends too and I could be out all weekend but I'm retreating into myself and cancelling plans at the moment as just finding it very hard to pretend I'm ok

Easy to say but make a really conscious effort not to retreat.

TheThingOnTheIce · 24/01/2026 19:51

I’m also 3/4 months out of a relationship that really messed with my head and this weekend is really hitting hard for some reason

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