Need advice

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I have recently met a lovely guy. I’ve bumped into him on a few occasions and have a mutual friend. He contacted me about something we had discussed but every few weeks he has messaged me asking how I am.

Last week he messaged and said he has feelings for me and is ready to split from his girlfriend as he’s not been happy for a while and they hardly see each other.

We have been messaging back and forth a lot… I’m not happy to keep this up.. what can I say. I really like him but would not start anything while he is with someone else.

Does this make sense?

Be wary of someone like this. What do you think will happen months or years down the line when he 'isn't happy'?

On a side note, I don't know if it would be a good idea for him to jump straight into another relationship straight away. Regardless of his current situation.

A lovely guy doesn’t message someone behind their girlfriends back and set up his next girlfriend before ending a relationship with the first.

If you really believe it has legs. Tell him to make his decision independently and once he has been single x months for him to get in touch once the break up is done and the dust settled etc

Of course it makes sense and of course you shouldn't want anything to do with someone who is making moves on you while attached to someone else. He's not a 'lovely guy' - sorry to burst your bubble - lovely guys wait until they are single to go sniffing after someone else. This guy smacks of the type that will dump his girlfriend at the slightest suggestion someone else is interested and then if that peters out will go running back to her again with his tail between his legs. Even if he isn't cheating he is at the very least 'overlapping' his romantic pursuits. I would kick him to the curb and frankly, would have done the moment he mentioned he had a girlfriend!

But he will start something while he is seeing someone else…..

He sounds like a coward and a cheat. This is an indicator of how he’ll treat you.

Yeah, he's not a lovely guy - he's messaging you behind his girlfriend's back! If he was a lovely guy he would have ended the relationship in a decent fashion before chasing after someone else!