Why does my new GF keep lying to me?

[SatelliteSpaceman]

To preface this I’m male and 55.
have been seeing a 53 year old woman for about 6 months now and she seems to keep lying to me.
when we met she told me that she was separated from her husband due to cheating ( I recently found out it was her who had a 2 year affair and not her husband as I lead to believe)
she has also lied about where she has been, recently she said she has been to a friends house for dinner, but had actually been out to a club ( I don’t care if she goes out to clubs) and there have been other occasions where things don’t quite ring true

Ive not confronted her about anything yet, but was wondering if anyone could shed any light on why someone would lie so much and so easily right to my face

I couldn’t cope with a liar .
You can’t trust her 🤷🏻‍♀️.
I’d be 💯 bailing out OP .

The same friends she said she going to dinner with AFAIK - I have no problem with where she goes - not my issue- but I don’t get why she had to lie about it and not just say she going clubbing instead

There is no ‘why’ sometimes. People are driven to understand other people’s motivations, but most of the time you’ll just drive yourself round the bend forensically examining why liars lie, why shit people do shit things etc etc etc. Just take her as you find her, know what you’re willing to accept and to what end and then proceed.

I recently found out it was her who had a 2 year affair and not her husband as I lead to believe

Once a dirty lying cheater always a dirty lying cheater.

Throw her back and find someone better. It won’t be hard.

If she is regularly lying to you, I suggest you revaluate your relationship with her as if it's not built on honesty then is it even worth having?

I would also call her out, explain the lies are pointless and if you do end it then ask her if the pointless lies were worth losing people over.

For some people lying comes easily and becomes part of who they are and how they conduct themselves. These are not safe people to give your heart to. It would be a massive no from me and I would be ending it.

My guess is she thought you wouldn’t approve of the clubbing and she was embarrassed by the affair. Without knowing the other lies it’s difficult to say but sometimes I think people lie because they want something to work - not to be mean.

I couldn't date someone with a history of cheating and who lies.

I'm not sure why you are still with her, knowing this and minding?

Why would you prefer to wonder why she’s lying rather than considering getting rid of her?