Dating in your fifty’s

[Carol52]

I am 54 mum of two older teenagers. I am 3 years out of a 35 year relation ship. We broke up due to his behaviour and mistrust long story he denied an affair but I know .
i have very few friends and not really social. How will I get back in to dating it scares me .

Snap on the age.

Join us on the dating thread?

Meetup? There’s a few groups on there near me aimed at people in their 40s, 50s and older that might help both the social and dating side of things.

Theres a singles group near me, but outside of that there’s groups for people who like dining out, going to gigs, walking, cinema… it’s a good way of meeting new people.

It’s worth considering / looking into what’s on near you.

53 with 2 late teens and 6 years on from separation. A friend, after many years trying 😂, finally persuaded me to dip my toe into OLD (Bumble) last year.

i have met a lovely man and have been dating for almost 9 months. I feel like I’ve been very lucky given some friends experiences of OLD but am very much enjoying it for now.

Prior to that I’d joined a FB group called Adventure Singles and met some nice people but nothing that gelled although had some nice nights out with the local group.

Good luck whatever you decide to do 🙌

Don’t!
Being single is glorious!

You don’t have to date. I have been single for years whilst my kids have been young as I didn’t want to bring a man into their lives and homes. Youngest is 18 soon and only child left at home now. I did start dating a colleague 3yrs ago for a while and it’s been on and off since, so much chemistry but he is a single dad with 100% custody so just doesn’t work. But I see him now and then but I am moving soon so that will be the end of that.

I am very independent and never needed a man in my life so i’d never sign up to internet dating personally, especially everything I read on forums about some of the creeps on there. But if I met someone organically again via work I’d perhaps give it a go. If you don’t want to do online dating then widen your social circle. I find though that approaching 50, I can’t be bothered going out and happy in bed for 9pm snuggled up with my dog!

Thank you for your advice. I agree with bits you gave all said. My dad passed away 2 years ago and I was his full time carer so apart from things my children had on I was always at home . I don’t want to be old and slime I am i independent but still want done nice company . I may look into groups around my area. Just having that confidence I guess

Posting a link to a porn site is disgusting SharpHiker, I’ve reported you.

\Meet up
Singles groups
Pubs
Whisky tasting events
Bike Clubs

Just go where other people are!

feel free to message me privately for advice

I feel your confusion op. Me too.

I didn’t. Husband left when I was 44 with a two year old son. I’ve stayed single. I can’t be arsed to go there again.

My mom found her man around 60 years old. If you feel like you are ready - nothing to be afraid of. Try different methods like dating websites, chats, bots etc. Here is the article to help you start and chose the right way to date. https://swipethelife.media/life-mode/10-ways-to-meet-people-online/

Decide what YOU want OP. Whether that is adult company and nights out with a friendship group, dating, or a mixture of both. Then do your research, there's plenty to discover. Sometimes I prefer just solo days out. The good news is that you have the freedom to choose.

Thank you i want company but also to develop a relationship

Lots of good advice about the Meetup groups, etc. Aside from that, I'll add because you say you're not social, you should at least try a new hobby where you can be around people who share that passion, even if you don't make fast friends with anyone. I say that because you don't want to be in the position where your world revolves around a man. You should shoot for a fulfilling life where a man will add to your joy, but not be the sole reason for your joy.

Also, have a wait and see attitude, especially during the honeymoon period of the first four months. The real person begins to emerge after that. Perhaps they will continue to be wonderful, but its also possible skeletons will come rattling out of the closet. Guard your heart until you see who the genuine person winds up being. Words and actions need to match. Never put in one-sided effort. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

I'm sorry you went through that. Ending such a long relationship takes a lot of strength, and it's completely understandable to feel scared about dating again. There's no need to rush yourself. Sometimes the best relationships begin when we simply take small steps—getting to know people, enjoying good conversations, and rebuilding our confidence. You deserve honesty, kindness, and happiness. What are you hoping to find when you feel ready to start dating again?