Neighbour / friend problem.

[KoalaBlue1]

I have a neighbour/friend. We have known each other for over 40 years.
Our kids grew up together. Now adults. We never see each others kids.
We are now all retired.
i am a home body. Friend is very active, attends walking groups, card groups, keeps busy most days.
The visits are becoming more often, and staying for hours on end.
She would turn up at, say 12.15, And sit.
so, I told her, look we don’t have lunch till about 1 ish.
So now visits are from about 1.15.and sits till almost 6 pm.
No amount of hints seem to make her leave.
The talk, is all about her, things that happened 60, 50, or 40 years ago.
Same stories on rotation.

I have noticed in the last few months she has become increasingly vague.
I often have to fill in the blanks in the stories mainly names and places.
i can’t stand her DH, And I know she doesn’t like mine.
My DH had a chat with hers recently about her memory, and he is aware of it but doesn’t know what to do.
She recently said that her DH makes fun of her when she forgets things.
They Recently went on a holiday and left most things they needed at home.
I am concerned for her, and would like to support her, but the constant visits and listening to the same stories over and over is getting me down.
Today I suggested watching something on Netflix, but she just went on and on.
Sorry, there’s probably no answers, but just need to get it off my chest.
I have tried avoiding answering the door, but she’s back again the next day.

You seem to be avoiding saying you think she might be in early dementia?
Which is a bigger problem than how long her visits are, and probably the cause?
Bite the bullet and communicate again with her husband- if he's got his head in the sand nothing's going to get better in this situation.
Someone needs to act. Look at some dementia websites and elderly care for advice and then bombard him with it until he does something.
Sorry @KoalaBlue1. Not easy but no point pussy-footing around this.

Thank you for your reply.
Yes I am thinking Dementia, or early stages of dementia.
I suppose that’s why she is living in the past.
I have been sort of waiting for an opportunity during her chats, to suggest that we go to the doctor together and have a talk.
But I realise it would be best coming from her husband.

@KoalaBlue1 I imagine that her DH and adult children must be noticing her vagueness too, and they’ll get her to the doctor’s. Does she walk over or have to drive to your house? If she’s really vague, it might be becoming unsafe for her to drive.

She told me her husband makes fun of her for forgetting things.
Im not a fan at the best of times.
She is a neighbour 3 doors down. So walks down. I’m thinking now she might not be aware how many times she is visiting.
They saw the son and daughter at Christmas. Son, lives far away and they only see him once a year. Daughter she sees twice a year.
I don’t think they would even notice.
I’ will get my H to come with me and visit the husband.
Let him know it’s not funny, and with early talk with the doctor could help in some way.
Thanks BRU for advice.