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Am I being dramatic?

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IWetMyPlants · 17/01/2026 23:12

Hi All,

Just wanted some input in my marriage whether it's me?

Married for 7 years together for 9. DH (48) is a good bloke until an argument arises which isn't very often. He has a habit of running off when this occurs back to his mother's and ghosts me for days because he seems to think I'll have calmed down. Usual arguments around just affection or paying any attention to me at all in a sexual way (I need this sometimes)

Around Christmas I caught him looking at a 20 something's family members breasts on two separate occasions. I left it the first time but the second time I had to try and explain how it made me feel.
Think I am struggling at the moment due to peri- and aging but I did go quite nuclear on him especially with his lack of affection for his wife. He has a habit of trying to turn things around saying I must look at men at the gym etc or he didn't realise he was looking at her boobs. He has gone back to his DM house and again just ignores me. Am I going insane here for throwing away a marriage for the sake of these tits?
Any advice would be appreciated.

OP posts:
IWetMyPlants · 18/01/2026 14:39

I have ended it I feel lighter already! Thank you for all your advice on this. ❤️

OP posts:
TheClocksFast · 18/01/2026 14:52

Well done 🎉

LapisBlue · 18/01/2026 16:12

Hi OP

I hope you're OK. And, that your husband will accept your reasons why - which are strong, and valid.

For me, being ignored for weeks on end when I'd done nothing wrong was, if anything, worse than the verbal physical abuse. I hope you find peace xx

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