I've recently separated from my wife of 17 years. After the birth of our second child (now 14) we stopped having sex. There's been no kissing, cuddling, saying "I love you" (unless I said it first) no holding hands, absolutely nothing. Thinking I was to blame I tried hard to please her, but was constantly met with derision. I was berated if I didn't do something I was meant to do, and if I did do it then I was berated for not doing it correctly (in other words the way she would have done it). I confronted her with this all the other day and explained how I'd been unhappy and feeling unloved for nearly 14 years to which she replied . . . "I just assumed you were gay". My question is, how do I/we move on from this? I've spent so long growing away from her I can't see a way back. Almost my entire marriage she thinks I have been living a lie. Any thoughts anyone?