My first post but a long time lurker.
I often see this advice when posters comment on affairs
End the relationship with AP
End the relationship with OH
Spend time on your own to grow/ go for therapy
what are the chances a cheating partner will end both relationships to stay on their own and be lonely? Also do you think your normal Joe bloggs will consider therapy to fix the underlying issues because they are cheating? Therapy is expensive but definitely needed for serial cheaters, people suffering from trauma, addictions etc etc but I doubt cheaters will seek therapy just because they have been unfaithful to their partners.
Im not questioning if these suggestions are right or wrong. In an ideal world, this is perfect advice. But humans are complex characters and every situation is different. I’m just wondering if they are practical or even relevant for most affair situations?
only experience I have on this topic is that I was cheated on by my ex but that was a very long time ago.