Is this a red flag or just being honest?

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I am dating a new woman, we are both late 30s and both women.weve been seeing eachother around 5 months.
For background, my ex wife cheated on me which devastated me, we separated 3 years ago.
New partner told me early on that she had cheated on her ex partner with a woman she worked with. Never told ex partner, said she felt awful, was a one off, taught her a lot about herself and would never do it again. This was around 5 years ago.
I’ve since found out she’s still in contact with this other woman, has her own social media, sees her occasionally in work, exchange the odd message. They never stopped contact.
now to me if you felt so awful and sick at yourself for what you did surely you would cut contact and block this person from your life or it’s a constant reminder then of what happened. I haven’t asked her to do that but I was commenting more in the past tense, as in after she cheated why did she go on and keep contact then, while still with her old partner.
she thinks I’m being unreasonable to comment that.
what’s you’re views?

Hopeful bump

RUN - good she is honest but you will be put through this too.

Red flag. She’d block if she genuinely felt she had done wrong.

Red flag for me.

I think there’s a very high chance you’ll be thinking / asking yourself this again in future if you stay with her OP.

But if she works with her and they get on then it might be more difficult for her to cut ties completely with them.

They work with eachother but cross paths in work only maybe once or twice a year

That’s how I feel. Why have a constant reminder?

That's not necessarily a red flag to me. She's been very open about it which she wouldn't be if it were a red flag I guess. I would tell her your worries (absolutely understandable given you have been cheated on). More of a red flag that she feels you shouldn't have commented in the way you did.

She was honest and might well not cheat again, but you’ll probably worry every time a message from this other woman pops up, or whether or not they crossed paths at work…it sounds like you’re setting yourself up for a lot of stress and second guessing.

I was glad she was honest but the amount of regret she spoke about didn’t really add up to keeping in contact and exchanging funny memes etc with this other woman still

My husband cheated on his ex wife, and the woman he cheated with is still on the fringes of our life (as far as I know only I know about their affair, which he did tell me about in the early days of our relationship). I'm never particularly delighted to be in her company, but I also think people do make mistakes and can learn from them. I don't believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" is necessarily true. Honesty is key though.

Sometimes I’m not sure. I think if someone cheats once it is an indicator or not great morals, they mightn’t necessarily cheat again but they may cross a line

People can change and grow through experience.

Nobody is perfect. At least she is honest.

Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good, if it's a good relationship for you in other ways.

Yeah I guess

I Suppose I may have thought when she initially told me about this other woman she would have said they are still in touch