Harassment

[mummy199033]

My ex has been contacting me non stop messaging and calling even when I don’t answer, for the past couple of weeks wanting to get back with me because he knows iv been seeing someone else, we’ve been separated for a long time but both never moved on and we have a child together. I’m wondering if this behaviour is actually harassment before I take it further as it’s causing me distress and anxiety

Yes, I had an ex who did this and I phoned the police in the end. They went round and cautioned him and never heard from his again. I don’t know how this would work with a child involved though I’m afraid.

Iv had a restraining order on him quite a few years back, although he’s not being aggressive he’s just constantly messaging and calling and threatening to end his life

Can you get a co-parenting app to communicate only about your child and then mute him on everything else (mute rather than block in case, god forbid, you ever need evidence in future)?

It’s the pick ups and drop off also he uses it as a chance to try and speak and beg me ect. Iv said I’m going to get a family member to do it but he keeps threatening to end his life when I say that also

How many years now has he been threatening to end his life? That alone should be an indication he’s nog going to do anything. It’s just a way to control you. Stop falling for it. Get on with your life. People who are going to end their life don’t spend years threatening to do it. They just do it.

This is a new thing the threats to end his life

You should go to the police. His behaviour is crossing into criminal territory. By the sounds of it he needs both external control measures and a behavioural intervention.

I would report it.
The threats to end his life would worry me when he has child in his care? Is he mental stable to not cause harm to anyone? Sorry to say that it's just worrying that he is harassing you so much.

The principal is still the same. He’s using the threat to control you. People who are going to do it don’t threaten to do it. They just do it. You can’t allow the threat to prevent you from getting on with your own life. If he’s going to do it he’ll do it anyway regardless of what you do. You need to toughen up on this and call his bluff.