Am I overthinking or is this normal in relationships?

[ADHDMumHere]

I’m in a generally happy relationship, but sometimes small moments make me feel a bit invisible and I end up questioning myself.
Nothing major, just those quiet doubts.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you handle it?

Depends what they are really but I'm not one of life's overthinkers tbh

Think you probably need to give examples.

Are we talking "sometimes when he's watching football he doesn't always hear me when I call his name" or "sometimes when he gets in a bad mood he leaves the house, turns his phone off and doesn't come back for a week or two" kind of thing? Or somewhere in between?

Also, will he listen if you talk to him about it without raging or sulking or minimising?

When I was young, before just about anything was invented, I started a relationship with the man who was to become my husband. I ignored the doubts I had about things he did at the beginning, I pushed them aside because I thought I loved him. I now know they were his tests, to see how far he could go and how quickly; to see what I would accept. I deeply, deeply regret ignoring them.

My advice to anyone now is to listen to your doubts, they're trying to protect you. There is so much information readily available at your fingertips now, please do not ignore anything you think may be a red flag @ADHDMumHere .

I think we need examples OP

All relationships require some compromise, but I think you need to take yor doubts seriously. Especially if they are increasing.

Can you expand a bit more? Hard to get a feel for the relationship on the very limited information you've given!

I think it depends on what you mean. I think everyone has the occasional little selfish moment where they forget they're in a relationship.

DP for example has the habit of going to the kitchen to get a drink, asks if I want one, and then comes back with only her own. This culminated in a trip to the pub on my birthday where she headed up to the bar, got a round in and came back with drinks for every body except me. I wouldn't have minded but it was last orders!

I on the other hand am guilty of making plans and forgetting to tell DP. I'm out with my Dad tonight, have known about it for about a week. Did I tell DP? Did I fuck. She's just mentioned maybe watching a film tonight, and I've been about to remind her I'm about, before realising I've not actually told her.

People are generally a bit crap, a bit selfish, a bit forgetful. If its only the occasional small moment that makes you feel like this, that suggests that the rest of the time, he's not making you feel invisible.