Should I contact this guy through facebook?

[LynetteScavo]

so I'm quite boared tonight and searched facebook for old school friends.

I've come across my first love (fron 6th form) I almost added him as a friend, but hesitated. He treated my like absolute shit when we split up.....but I carried on lusting after him for the remainder of U6th.

We are now both very happily married, and got along brilliantly - as best friends- before we got together and then split up. I haven't seen him since we left school nearly 20 years ago, and we live on different continents.

So should I try to add him as a freind?

I actually got butterflys when I saw his photo.

I've just read this post, and it sounds soooo pathetic. Someone slap me and give me some big sister sensible advice.

Well I did get in touch with my first lurrve on Facebook last year, having wondered on and off how/where/what he was for about 20 years. We exchanged a few cheery messages and he invited me to come along to a drink-up he and his fiancee were having. As I had let another mutual friend know he was on FB and she was invited to the drink-up too, I went along with her (as I said to her, it would be good to have her company as if I didn't know anyone but Him it might be a bit awkward and his fiancee might not like it, my mate S coming too made it much more about an old student pals reunion).
Me, my mate S and old XP had a great time, as did everyone else, had nice chat with his fiancee, flirted a bit with one of his workmates, had a big hug at the end of the night and sincerely wished each other well... and apart from a bit of sporadic sheep-throwing and video-forwarding on Facebook, that's been it. And it's been fine. I am/was genuinely glad to see him happy, I always liked the bloke even though as a DP he drove me demented at the end. And I expect we may all bump into each other again at some stage, and it will be nice, but neither I nor he will be that bothered about it.

No

If it weren't for the butterflies, I'd say get in touch. But given the butterflies, steer clear.

No way, don't do it - it can only lead to problems of one kind or another.

No, facebook is the DEVIL!

I told DH about this thread this morning. He thinks you all watch to many soap operas.

When I told him jokingly I was about to have an affair with someone 8000 miles away that I hadn't seen in 20 years he said "Good luck"

Now the effects of a couple of glasses of wine have worn off, I've remembered he was a right tosser! (ex boyfriend, not DH)

pmsl - lynette your dh sounds lovely and from what I remember he's the nicest looking one on the whole of Wisteria Lane too

er, no...I missed that bit out. It was only the effect of the wine y'know.

If your really interested you can "poke" him and see what happens. Then he knows your there.

FGS, different continents!! - whats likely to happen except a few butterflies from time to time, its hardly an affair now is it. (i'll be shunned from MN forever)

If it was me I couldn't resist , but then i am full of mischief.

why on earth would you

[world gone mad]