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TinaM44 · 13/01/2026 12:03

Partner and I have been together nearly 2 years.
About a year ago I had a problem with my car and a female friend came to help.We couldn’t sort it out and a man passing by stopped and helped me.
He gave me his number as he told me had a painting/decorating business and my partner needed someone for the work in his house.
Anyway I moved house and my children helped me and I paid this man to help as well as my partner was busy. I told him my partner wanted to be there and was disappointed he couldn’t. This man replied with if he wanted to he could have. I just ignored that.
Anyway a few times I feel like he’s said things I’m not comfortable with the last comment eas what do you do to make all these men fall in love with you !!!!
last week he was helping my partner and he phoned me to tell me he was going to pass by and see me. I said no as I was not ready he came anyway.
he then starts to tell me that my partners ex contacted him to work for her I told him I wasn’t interested in knowing and I asked him to leave.
I thought he was talking of his ex partner who harassed him when we first got together but apparently it’s his ex wife.
i just feel uncomfortable and don’t know what to say to my partner as they are becoming friends I feel lik this man has bad intentions but he’s so nice and friendly it wouid be hard for my partner to see that I think

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shimasu · 13/01/2026 13:47

He's crossing boundaries so tell him in no uncertain terms so that he understands. If he does it again bin him off.

TinaM44 · 13/01/2026 18:38

Yes but how do I tell my partner this man is so friendly county be helpful enough

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TinaM44 · 13/01/2026 18:41

Sorry this man comes across as being so nice and friendly it’s hard to believe he is not as nice as he seems.
also for a reason I can’t figure out he told my partner I didn’t answer his happy new year text !!! Why would he say that and Also mmessaging me at 8.30 am !!!

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Lightsandrainbows · 13/01/2026 18:43

Stop hiring the man.
tell your DP that you’re not comfortable with him, you get a funny vibe and it’s making you uneasy, and you would like to not hire him anymore if that isn’t enough for DP probably bin him off too.

PashaMinaMio · 13/01/2026 18:47

Oh @TinaM44
Just quietly and discreetly block him on your phone. No fanfare, just do it.

If you have to, just tell your partner (if he finds out) that Decorator Man gives you the creeps.

If Decorator Man wants to be mates with your partner, that’s up to them but needn’t be anything to do with you. Let them get on with it.

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