Hello, I am looking for the hive mind advice. I don't have family to fall back on, apart from a 20 year old daughter who isn't yet independent, so I am asking Mumsnetter what I should do.
I was married a long time to my first husband. I have been with my second husband for 10 years, and I am now in my mid fifties.
I am increasingly fed up with my relationship with my second husband. We don't seem that compatible and I don't enjoy his company that much. I do care about him and worry because his health is not as good as it was.
I think about leaving but it would effect others. I would probably get by, but not that well off. Later this year, I will probably have enough money to buy a small terraced house, no garden. Not guaranteed but probably.
I have a 20 year old daughter who is a student. She still relies on me somewhat. Although she works hard she needs me for a roof over her head whilst she is a student and maybe after graduation too because of the economic situation. Her dad, my first husband, has been made redundant and lives in a rented flat in a different part of the country. My daughter's friends mostly live near to me. She doesn't have any friends near her father.
We also have a dog and a cat, which I look after. My second husband has stopped helping with them.
I would like to leave but it worry:
How will I help my daughter? Who will look after the animals? I can't afford a garden. My second husband owns our house, which has a big garden. What will happen if my second husband becomes more ill? He is much older than me.
If I was in my 20s, 30s and 40s, I think would have more confidence in my ability to provide for those who rely on me. But, I am older. I am also worried that my life will be over before my responsibilities to others end