My brother is in his mid 50's. He's alienated himself from all of us (my parents, myself and my younger brother). None of us have seen him for nearly 3 years despite all of us ringing, emailing, sending letters and banging on his door. He's also ignored all of his friends.
We think this has spiralled because of debt, embarrassment and shame . He has always been the black sheep and looking back has probably always suffered with his mental health.
An old friend of his had recently made a breakthrough and has been meeting up with him for coffee. It's all very much on my brothers terms and up until this weekend the friend hasn't been inside his house. He missed his bus home on Saturday so stayed over. The friend has rung me tonight to say that the house is in a terrible state. Bags of rubbish, no clean cups, a box of unopened letters by the door. He said he got home on Sunday and put his clothes straight in the washer. He says someone needs to intervene and he's worried about him.
But none of us can make contact with him, he refuses to engage with any of us and I just don't know what to do. My parents are in their 80's and I just don't know whether to even tell them about this new development.
Is there nothing I can do 🤷♀️ I'm at a total,loss.