I wonder if you could help me. My sister is in what I would term an abusive relationship. Her partner is controlling. He won’t speak to her for days when she’s done what I consider the smallest thing. He gaslights her quite a lot. She just isn’t the same person she was before she met this man.
She met him coming out of a long marriage and I wonder if she was charmed or I guess what you would call love bombed by him. She has three children one of who is severely disabled and she is his main carer. Her ex-husband is also being a dick about childcare arrangements and to be honest I think she’s just exhausted and worn down and feels she’s not worth much. This is not the case she is the most beautiful person and I am fighting my rescue reaction to just get her. I want to go in there full Liam Neeson and rescue her, but I know this is not helpful. She needs to not feel judged so I’m just listening to her and giving her every opportunity to tell me what’s happening because its new that she’s telling us. but there are soooo many red flags in this relationship.
Does anybody have any tips or could tell me what worked for them. I would love to hear how best to support someone until they’re ready to leave that relationship.
thanks in advance