Husband being abusive

[Ineedsomeadvicepls]

I was hanging some washing on the airer to dry. I was told I wasn’t doing it fast enough, when I said actually I was doing it fine he went mad and threw the washing across the room and destroyed the airer by stamping on it. He still thinks I was in the wrong and is waiting for me to apologise to him. I’m not going to. What do I do? I’m angry, scared and upset.

@Dollyfloss i probably would have enough to rent alone with a UC top up to my wages yes.

Google NCDA and apply for a non mol once you have a plan in place op, and make sure your Google history isn't linked to the family WiFi or it could show up in his searches too.

There are pet foster placements

Record what you can, if you can take a photo of the airer do it but again only if it's safe.

You know you can call the police 999 55 if you can't speak. If I were you, I'd get him arrested tonight then you can have a night's sleep in safety you and the kids and spend tomorrow making a plan of how to get to safety.

Look at rights of women website

Also get your docs together

Good luck x

Would also recommend reading the links in small blue text at the top of this thread. It helped me x

Is there anyone you could stay with in the meantime?

I would keep everything absolutely secret OP - these abusive men ramp it up when they know you’re leaving. Chances are he knows you’ve mentally checked out and that’s why he’s losing it now. Don’t tell him anything and quietly get your ducks in a row. Deposit saved, all paperwork/passports/marriage certificate etc secretly taken out of the house and left with a trusted friend or relative. Tell someone trustworthy what you are doing.

If you go on the separation/divorce board you’ll find women who’ve escaped abusive relationships and are experts at how to get out safely.

💐

He doesn’t love you.