Am I being ghosted?

[Tattybye87]

So just as the title says really. IV been meeting up with this guy for a few weeks, he said all the right things, seems really lovely! But, yesterday he was intermittently texting. Said he was ill, haven't heard off him for 24hrs now. He hasn't been active online for that long either. I have only text once saying hope you're okay, I haven't bombarded or anything. IV been single for so long, because I just don't trust people 🫣 so am I right in thinking IV been blown out? Or could he be actually that ill where he hasn't bothered with anything? Any opinions welcome 😊

He might just be really ill. There is a horrible flu going round. Leave him alone for a day or two.

When I’m ill I don’t feel like talking to anyone. I wouldn’t panic. I also wouldn’t be so invested in someone I’ve only known for a few weeks!

Thank you! I have left him alone tbh, I just can't switch my mind off 😂 thank you for your reply

If he hasn't been active online then he isn't messaging anyone else either! It makes sense to keep your guard up OP but don't keep it up this high or you'll alienate him- give him the benefit of the doubt

When I am ill I don't want to talk to anyone - he's probably trying to sleep it off so he can go into work tomorrow. I would leave him alone and be patient.

I was wiped out for 5 days with flu over New Year. I prioritised rest, not replying to messages.
You’re overthinking this. He might have ghosted you and not be ill. Or he could be telling the truth and not want to be stalked whilst poorly.
Work on yourself as you’re going to sabotage any good relationship with this approach. He’ll contact you if he wants to or when he’s feeling better. If he doesn’t, move on.

He might be sleeping through the lurgy. There's one going about that invaded our house and my DP slept for about 20hrs.

Hmm dunno if invested is the right word, he can stay or leave Yuh know. BUT it's the limbo part for me. The not knowing I guess. Thank you for your reply. Just needed to ask someone what they thought, not my friends though coz it's early days like. Thank you 😊

Literally why I'm asking here, I haven't stalked anyone I can assure you 😂 I did check to see if my message had been read. The one that said I hope you feel better soon. No more messages sent, no stalking I promise 😂 I just wanted to know if I'm being paranoid. Like in my mind, not out loud 😂 that's why I asked you lovely bunch of strangers 😊

Unfortunately, in the early stages of dating you have to learn to live in the grey area. Give him a few more days. And by this time next week, you'll know. But try and keep your mind busy in the meantime

Thank you, my guard is up massively high. But I need to say again I have expressed none of this to him. Like zero. Coz he could well be ill. My overthinking isn't his problem. I know this. And I haven't made it his problem. He can be ill in peace honestly. I just wanted to settle.my own mind my asking what others think.

I’d feel the same too, without knowing him well, you just have to wait and see if he contacts to arrange another date, there maybe a glimmer of truth if he hasn’t been online at all, but having said that apart from when I’ve been recovering from surgery I don’t think I’ve ever been too unwell to not use my fingers to message within 24hrs, just remember you’re not in a proper relationship yet so I’d just keep myself busy from overthinking.

Thank you for understanding! You're absolutely right though, I'm gonna stop thinking about it now. I know it's pointless worrying. What will be will be and all thatm I think I just needed someone to tell me that! So thank you 😊

Don't worry I met my now husband ten years ago on a dating app! We talked on WhatsApp for about 3 months before actually meeting and his granny passed away whilst we were talking. I sort of left him alone as I knew he'd have alot going on and he didn't really message me much for a week and even though I knew it was because he had a lot going on I was secretly and selfishly thinking (gaaahh what if he forgets me) 😂 I think the fact I didn't pester him alot helped! Anyway we are now married(happily) with 3 children so don't panic yet!

Wait a couple of days, when I had covid I really could hardly lift my head off the pillow to use my phone