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Why I Wonder

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WhyIWonder · 11/01/2026 12:17

A man was messaging me recently - just friendly to begin but then suggesting that we meet for coffee and the frequency of messages were increasing. I knew that he had been separated from his wife. I am recently divorced too and very happily single. I asked how the separation was about a week into texting as I just wanted stead fast confirmation.that I wasn’t overstepping a mark . His reply: it’s complicated, we’re living together again as it was difficult seeing the children. You know how it is! I immediately replied with please do not message me again. Best wishes.
Why are men so horrid? His poor wife and their children. And also why do some women when they discover that a man is committed not immediately stop? Yes, this man is handsome but the fact he is in a relationship, stopped me and should all others.

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helplessbanana · 11/01/2026 16:52

At least he was honest about it.

WhyIWonder · 11/01/2026 17:00

He wasn’t honest. He was texting another woman despite being very much married!

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NotnowMildrid · 11/01/2026 17:06

Because some men are very weak and like to have someone else lined up ready and waiting.

in answer to why women don’t stop, is because they are desperate and don’t have a sense of pride or care about the wife and children.

It’s a shame not more women are like you.

muckypuppyducky · 12/01/2026 22:52

Yack. Well done for standing firm. Sadly not everyone does.

summitfever · 12/01/2026 22:57

It’s not unusual for separated couples to live together these days until the house is sold etc as cost of living is mental but I wouldn’t be getting involved, nobody is in a position to date until their life is stable post separation imo and experience.

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