I miss my old friend

[Chassisy]

A few years ago my best friend called me lazy for not working and emphasised the work lazy. I was out of work as I was ill from a virus and in recovery after hospital. I didn’t call her out as I was in shock she judged me and hadn’t got the energy to confront her.

I ended up blocking her as I thought why is she friends with me if she is putting me down and thinks I am lazy. It wasn’t good for my self esteem. I know it’s not a nice thing to do. If someone did this now I would call them out straight away.

I contacted her in December to let her know one of our friends from secondary school passed away as she was good friends with her too but they fell out as she has slept with the deceased friend’s ex fiancé. She replied and just thanks for letting he know. I had asked her how she was and know we hand spoke for a while but she didn’t acknowledge it.

It is a shame as I do miss her at times and we had good times but at others she could be defensive and sarcastic for no reason and also did this to others she has since fallen out with.

What should I do?

Nothing.

You ended the friendship, quite reasonably, and she has no desire to rekindle it. You're allowed to miss the good times but why you'd invite her back into her life, I'm not sure

Nothing, sorry, but she doesn't really sound 'best friend' material!
Try and join some groups or volunteer somewhere and find some new friends who aren't so judgy.

Do nothing. She's clearly not interested and she doesn't sound that nice. You miss the idea of her but the reality is not the same.

I get it, I ended a friendship that I'd had for many years. I miss her ,as of course, it wasn't all bad all of the time. Unfortunately the bad started to outweigh the good and I know she would never change. Just move on with your life.

Do nothing. She's not a good friend.

You did the right thing at the time, who kicks a person when they are the most vulnerable? At another low in your life, the friend would have just escalated the disrespect and lack of care. No one in their right mind does this.

You had every right in ending the friendship, and its normal to reminisce on old times. Hope you have fully recovered.

And you blocked her. The friendship was over. I'm not sure why you felt you had to tell her the news, unless you were looking for a reason to unblock.

Of course you do nothing.

She has made it clear that she doesn't want contact with or friendship.from you and so all that is left for you to do is leave her alone or harass her.

She doesn't sound like a great person op. You are best off without her. Set your bar higher.