Can anyone share their experience please?
I am in physical and emotionally abusive relationship.
We are not married.
We have a toddler.
I'm a sahm.
Things are worse since child arrived
We live in his house under his name.
He threatens me with killing me and/or ruining my life and my parents if I dare to cheat or fu"k up but he constantly accuses me of cheating, every week, if I go to the park, to the shop, to my parents threatening to throwing me out on the doorstep and more. I can go into more details if needed.
I am going to apply for council the put me on a higher band. I have been thinking of doing this for 2 years but I'm so scared, exhausted and anxious.
I do not have family to stay with, I no longer have any savings. I have a car in my name.
Tried to leave, to sit down and talk about how this isn't working for me without bringing up his abuse but other issues he is never home etc but he doesn't believe me that I will leave and/or threatens me, screams and shout, throws things and of course things got worse after that conversation.
His behaviour has become a lot worse since child arrived and there have been quite a few times I've felt scared. I have called the police once previously. He was screaming and shouting crazy and threatening to hit me with a steering lock, pushing me and so on.
Two male officers arrived. One stood with me in the kitchen one with him. He lied to them of course. They both came and asked me if I was okay while partner stood behind them. I never told them anything, I said I'm fine, I said he was shouting and throwing things that was all.
They left. He has brought it up many times. I don't feel okay to call them again. What if they do that again.
Unable to attend meetings as airtag in my car. Hidden cameras around the house so do not feel comfortable talking on the phone either.
I would like to apply for housing but wait here in this home until something is found for me and our child. Instead of going into emergency housing. I have read on here there some women have done this.
I am aware being away from him sooner than later is very important but I do not have the strength to go into emergency housing.
Please if you can share you experience, how it worked out, what steps to take?
I'm a nervous wreck and cannot take this any longer.
Thank you