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Saying we love each other

6 replies

mira21 · 09/01/2026 21:12

So, last weekend my bf and I made love for the first time after being together for almost a year. I had reasons for wanting to wait so long and he was always respectful of this. We talked about doing it in advance, so it was kind of 'planned' in that he had condoms and we were both prepared that it might happen. We were away on a city break for his birthday. It went so well, the night was so see special. It had been a long time for both of us tbh, him longer than me.
We landed back in UK this morning and both headed home. We don't live together.
He text me when arrived home and said 'I love you' in a text that was sent straight after it.
I've felt for a while that we love each other but it was unspoken. We've never actually said it face to face, the first time was in his text this morning. I replied that I love him too. As you might guess we've both been out of the dating game for a while before meeting each other.
Does this text and my reply need a conversation, or do I just go with the flow?

OP posts:
Catza · 09/01/2026 21:14

Conversation about what?

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/01/2026 21:14

When do you plan to see each other? Because although going with the flow is great, that’s a face-to-face conversation.

Flowers999 · 09/01/2026 21:15

I'd be a little but dissapointed he didn"t say it to my face for the first time

PaddyMacPaddyFace · 09/01/2026 21:40

Flowers999 · 09/01/2026 21:15

I'd be a little but dissapointed he didn"t say it to my face for the first time

Jeez. Poor man.
He's waited a year for sex without complaining and he hasn't immediately ghosted OP, no instead he's said
'I love you'
and still gets criticised!

It's hard to be a man on Mumsnet

Andepeda · 09/01/2026 22:15

Go with the flow OP, it's lovely. He sounds really nice.

TalulaHalulah · 09/01/2026 22:19

That’s very sweet.
I think when you see him just say how much you enjoyed your night away and appreciated the text he sent you. And either he will want to say more or the conversation will move on, but either way you have acknowledged to him directly what you have written on here.

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