Advice or tips please

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My DH is awful. Hes horrible to me.
(In private lovely fake face in front of everyone) But hes a major narcissist. We have a 4yo and 2yo. I cant leave my kids alone with him hes awful as a dad doesnt do any actual parenting just plays with them sometimes

Over Christmas break he would do an outing in the morning then nap in afternoon / go to gym. He does this all the time demands a nap like a baby.

I cant leave my kids with him hence why I havent left. I cant co parent with him and hes got money he'd make everything hell for me

But how do I get through this? When the kids are older and self sufficient I can leave him but not now theyre so young and I dont want them in the middle of a custody battle and he'd make it that because hes so stubborn

Any tips to stay strong i have just cried while wfh but I cant let things affect work I need a job too

Is he actually abusive or neglectful to your kids? It sounds like you do need to separate, you should get something from the divorce and he would have to either wrap his head arocaring for the kids or leave this to you…I know it’s a horrible position to be in and the idea of splitting time with kids is awful but better than raising them in a deeply disfunctional family with an unhappy mother

No and I never leave him with them and the thought of it makes me physically sick

Because of how he is with me and im convinced he hates me, I get worried he'd turn them against me or he'd go off with them and wouldn't tell me wouldn't bring them back for agreed times etc

Its such a tough situation theyre my entire world