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Should I stay or should I go?

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Seesaworoundabout · 08/01/2026 09:48

I got engaged and when I've brought up the subject of getting married I feel I'm being fobbed off. So I've decided to no longer bring the subject up and I know for a fact he wont either. Since we got engaged he has never discussed it and when I've brought it up he fobs me off as in says just enough to make me believe that it will happen. I'm worried that if I have to bring it up again I won't be very happy about it because I have already started to feel resentful. When he was poorly I felt he was benefiting from wife care without having to commit. When he cuddles me I've started to feel like he is taking all he can with no need to commit to me. Even though he treats me so nice and I do actually want to be with him something in me is telling me to leave and not settle for a forever engagement. I've told him I don't want a forever engagement and his response was if I'm so unhappy I should leave followed by "I don't want you to leave '. I now feel he is waiting for my next move. He will never bring up the marriage subject. I dont want to bring it up either as I'm now too angry to. Should I just go?

OP posts:
MostlyHappyMummy · 09/01/2026 17:28

You can still have a relationship without living together. Does living together mean you have taken over some chores that he should be doing and financially contributing to his mortgage if he has one?

unsync · 09/01/2026 17:36

Did you move in with him? Rented or owned? Are you contributing to paying off his mortgage and if so, what do you get for doing this?

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