Did my neighbour do this?

[swoooooning]

OK so I’ve recently developed a little crush on my neighbour. We haven’t spoken that much in the past but we’re both very good friends with the little old couple that live in between us - they adore him (and me!) & he does lots to help them out. He’s handsome & seems v handy, always doing DIY & has a lovely garden (attractive I think 😂).

We were all chatting the other day & I said I was going somewhere with DD - he ran in & got a card thingy from last time he took his DD there, that had loads of credit left on it for us to spend.

he also said he had a suction cup at work that he was gonna grab yesterday to see if it might work on pulling out a big dent I’ve had in my car for years.

It’s been snowing for days & everyone’s cars have needed some pretty major de-icing each morning, today no exception. But this morning my windscreen & windows were completely clear, and I think the dent has got better too?!

tricky to be sure re the dent as I can’t visualise stuff but I’m like 70% sure it’s less deep.

is there any other reason why my car was the only one with no ice on it, that isn’t him coming and de-icing it (and presumably having a go at the dent), before he left for work?

so dreamy if so!! But what do I do now as I’m not sure!? Don’t want to thank him if he hasn’t 😅 I did panic buy him some beer as a thank you for the credit (there was like £15+ on it) so I can drop that round tomorrow when I look less rough. Maybe?? But do I mention the car?? Aaahhh.

i left DDs abusive dad 9 years ago & have been single ever since, which has been fine really, happy I’ve always put her first & I love my own company but now she’s growing up just recently I’ve been thinking whether it would be nice to have a bit of romance in my life….

Very much so!!!

Yes He defo likes you, men only pay attention to women they like!!

Then I think you need to take steps to move out of the friend zone. It’s great you spend a lot of time together and click well, but to move things on there needs to be some intention behind it.
So, instead of
“I like a pub quiz / Great let’s do one together”
it would be good to say
“I like spending time together, would you like to go for dinner?”

If he’s into you then he’ll jump at the offer. If he has no romantic intentions he’ll come straight back with the idea to invite the children or the neighbours along.

It sounds like he’s interested in you (the speed with which he locked in on and followed up on the pub quiz strongly suggests to me that this is not just platonic). I don’t think you need to rush this from pub quiz to dinner invite. Everything has progressed very naturally. You’re both doing your bit to make it happen. Enjoy the pub quiz and his company.

I also do NOT think you should say you’re rubbish at telling whether someone’s into you. He’s set up the pub quiz and invited you to a bbq. Assuming they go well, i
think the next invitation needs to come from you (is there an exhibition or film you want to see or a new cafe you want to check out - nothing too romantic but something that is potentially a bit date-like?).

How exciting!

I love a ‘six months later’ thread revival out of nowhere. I’d do the pub quiz first before pushing it any further so that you can gauge what it’s like to spend time in a social setting together rather than an ‘odd jobs’ setting IYSWIM?

I think he fancies you too.
Nice and slow.
A quizz sounds fun.
Wishing you well.

best update on here for a while!! My advice is been overwhelmingly honest throughout the process for your own sake. No masking!

Yeah this is my plan I think, will be easier to gauge then. Promise I will update!

He definitely fancies you. Men don’t make that sort of effort for someone they don’t fancy! The bbq and quiz sound nice. Good he’s not putting pressure on you but agree with pp maybe try to go to quiz alone.

Good grief, OP, I'll eat my hat if this friendship doesn't end up going somewhere. You mention you'd like to go to a pub quiz and he's hot-footing round the very next morning with venue suggestions - that and the BBQ. He's doing all the running and you just need to accept every overture and invitation he offers.

Me too!!! My BF was a friend who when we both became single, started being very attentive.

I didn’t read the signs at all until he made an actual pass and now, two years later, I am so glad that I lent into it!

I wish you so much happiness. Enjoy this!

Oh I remember reading this at the time and rooting for you!!! So glad you've come back with an update ..... now to plan your pub quiz team name !!

We need more updates like this - good luck at the quiz OP!