Why are my family upset I want to remain single and virgin for life?

[paige8039]

I'm 35 in london, I lived with my parents until 30 and I was able to buy my property in cash and I live alone and I've never had a partner and I'm quite open to share that I'm also a virgin and will always be a virgin. My family look down on that but I'm quite happy. They're catholic and they believe in marriage and children. I believe in being quiet alone. I am am very active going to the gym every week and I get loads of attention but I'm not interested. I've never been interested in any man or woman.

They probably don't understand you're quite content as its not the norm and are worried for you. Selfish reasons too as they probably want grandchildren! But keep on doing you I bet you are happier than so many people out there!

They have traditional expectations of what happiness looks like and you’re taking a different path so they’re worried for you and disappointed for them.

I think it sounds awesome how sure you are of what you want.

the mismatch might be difficult for them to accept though. I imagine time will help.

People do seem to find this hard to accept especially if they want grandchildren. But some people label themselves asexual - maybe look into this for community and representation if you want to. This label seems to make some mumsnetters very angry.

But if you don’t fancy anyone then getting married would be a bad idea. You can’t do any more than explain that to your parents and it’s not really anyone else’s business.

I think. The fact that this bothers you so much that you’ve started numerous threads about it says that you’re not actually as on board with this idea as you want people to believe.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be single, but actually wanting or feeling the need to tell the world you want to remain a virgin is weird. Nobody needs to know. So why do you need to tell them?

Maybe they're sick of you openly sharing your virgin status? I mean, it doesn't seem like something you need to openly share all the time.

Just tell them you don't want children and aren't looking for a man - but they'll be the first to know if you ever change your mind - and then firmly shut them down every time they bring it up with a 'Mum, Dad, you know I've told you that I'll let you know if I decide to seek a relationship. Stop going on about it.'

The fact you keep posting the same thing says you are bothered about it.

Bizarrely you’ve been posting in this vein for months, once saying “son is 34, single” etc. also posted that you rent a room and that you’re looking to buy an apartment on your salary with 15% deposit??