Reminiscing past

[Snowdropsfalling]

I’ve had a few things happen that has made me really reminisce the past. Wishing I could turn back time.

I had my heart broken over a decade ago, it took me a year to heal then I moved on and never looked back.

Strangely I have felt this heartache return, I feel regret ending the relationship I had with this person and keep wondering ‘what if’ - if I had stayed, where would my life be?

Of course I had my reasons for leaving, the person I was with was very controlling and I just would have never have had half the experiences I had if I had stayed but I feel like I am doubting myself whether I made the right choice.

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this?

I am assuming it is due to me not being entirely satisfied where I am in life at the moment - I am working on the those things though.

Yes, I often think what if 🙃 not sure it does any good though!

I think it never does any good to dwell on the past - you can't change it and it sounds like you made the right decision at the time. Start making plans for the immediate future to make your life how you want it to be. When your thoughts drift to the past, actively distract yourself by doing something else - go for a walk, call a friend, clear out a cupboard! You can retrain your thought patterns this way.

It’s normal to think what if, especially if you planned a future with someone. What isn’t healthy is fixating on it a decade later. Try and focus on living a good life now instead. That path wasn’t for you which is why it didn’t happen.